Hope is necessary

Fourth in the Affirmation Series

You may think of many more, but for this Blog series, our fourth and final Affirmation is: I have hope.

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Are you a person with a hopeful, positive outlook? Which box would you check?

◻ sometimes ◻ usually ◻ never ◻ not very often

If you were limited to a bed or wheelchair, or if you had an uncaring roommate… or if you could not move without pain, how might that affect your outlook? When we feel we cannot control most details of our lives, feelings of hopelessness can creep in.

A loud TV or not being able to hear one— an aide who did not answer your call quickly— a nurse who did not seem to care about you— small hurts and problems mount up. Each slight seems to be directed at us personally.

When you visit with your loved one, you could ask where they fall on the Hope Scale. Perhaps their answer will shine a light on something you can do to help them.

An affirmation for your loved one and for all of us who feel neglected or under God’s frown is: I have hope.

I feel neglected but I still have hope. A better moment will come soon.

I feel frustrated but I do hope this day will shape up.

I feel ignored but I hope that my life will still be useful even though I cannot see how.

I feel hopeless but I do hope and I will keep hoping.

We cannot live without hope.

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Reasonably Positive

Third in the Affirmation Series

A Third Affirmation: I am not a terrible person.

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Most of us who are conscientious will at times condemn ourselves. We will scold ourselves mercilessly in our silent yet noisy thoughts.

Perhaps we realize we have hurt the feelings of someone we love; maybe our “thought life” has been terrible, and we know God hears all our thoughts. Each of us would have a unique confession but none should feel alone in the tendency to have a bad temper or attitude.

Turning over a new leaf can start with an answer back to the self-condemnation! Encourage your loved one to repeat after you: I am NOT a terrible person. I love God, I love my family and friends, and when I feel like I don’t really love them at all, I know that it is only a temporary failing. I will do better. I am old and I can still change many things in my life. I am not old in my heart.

Then, tell your loved one that he or she is a wonderful person.

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Affirming Love

Second in the Affirmation Series

This blog series offers Affirmations for you and your loved one who is nearing the end of life. Your goal is for your loved one to say the affirmation with you. You may help them to feel better about life, because they will verbally express a positive thought that is true and comforting.

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There are two commandments in the Christian faith that are very special. The first is: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ (Mat 22.37). The second is: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Mat 22:39)

Ask your loved one to repeat after you, “I love God.” Then say, Let’s repeat the first affirmation, “I love my family and friends.”

If your loved one has a hard time saying these things, it can open a way to talk about their feelings. Perhaps they will say, “I do love God but I feel like he has forgotten me.” There are other comforting Bible verses to share, like,

‘Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.’ - Jesus (John 14:27)

Or try saying, “The Bible talks about God’s people feeling they are forgotten. To them and to you, God says through Isaiah, his prophet, “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” (Isa 49:15)

Or, try sharing your favorite Bible verse, and explain why you like it. Ask if they have one, or if they would like to repeat yours.

Just putting those good thoughts in their hearing may help them feel better.