Helping Your Loved One with a “Care Transition”

care transitionsMoving anywhere can be difficult, and this type of change may be particularly so for our beloved elderly facing some level of senior care. Whether it’s a transition to assisted living or a higher level of nursing care, older adults face varying degrees of adjustment. Maple Manor Christian Home shares details below about challenges your senior loved one may face during a move, and how you can help them with the transition.

Challenges of moving to a care facility

When seniors move to assisted living or nursing care, they’ll experience a number of changes that may affect their emotions and moods. While not all seniors have troubles adjusting to living in a care facility, recognizing their challenges can help those around them gain a level of empathy and understanding of how to help them transition through this time. Our new residents may feel:

  • ♥ Sadness about losing their home, household possessions, and neighborhood friends
  • ♥ Disorientation from living in a new place and dealing with new people, including residents and staff
  • ♥ Resentment about their loss of independence
  • ♥ Difficulty in adjusting to new routines, like meal schedules
  • ♥ Feelings of abandonment

It’s common for seniors to work through these initial feelings and come to realize that some many aspects of care facilities are actually valuable. They come to recognize the benefit of having others do their housekeeping and meal preparation. Feelings of abandonment turn into gratitude with the understanding that family members were looking out for their best interests.

How to ease the transition

A key to helping relocating seniors is to provide positive reassurance about the move, emphasizing this is a new chapter in their lives that will allow them to live safely and thrive in a community. Below are some tips on how family members can help with this transition.

  • Visit the care facility before the move takes place. After selecting a senior community, take your loved one there before the move for meals or events so they become familiar with the layout, residents, and staff.
  • Remember the need for independence. While visiting often especially in the first days and weeks of the transition are reassuring, being overprotective can be counter-productive.
  • Make their new living space feel like home. Bring photos and other personal items from home. Set up the bedroom, living space, and kitchen like it was at home.
  • Acknowledge negative feelings. Be prepared for your loved one to criticize things about their new home. They may say they want to go home. Do not hastily dismiss negative comments. Acknowledging these feelings will allow them to know you understand and care. Listening and providing comfort is powerful. Redirect at an appropriate time with a suggestion like, “Let’s go for a cup of coffee.”
  • Encourage your loved one to get involved in activities and stay active. Review the social calendars with them. Ask what they may be interested in trying. Attend an exercise class with them. Some care centers even have volunteer opportunities.
  • Seek assistance and suggestions from staff. You and your family are advocates for your loved one, but this transition may be equally confusing for you. Don’t hesitate to talk to staff about all of your questions. Most care facilities have social workers on-site that can help you as well.

Maple Manor Christian Home is a skilled nursing facility, certified by the Indiana State Department of Health. Our mission is to provide outstanding care for all of our residents by being compassionate, affectionate, respectful, and enthusiastic. We welcome family and friends and encourage them to visit frequently. Call us at (812) 246-4866 with any questions and to schedule a tour.

Sources: https://careconversations.org/transition-care | https://www.medicaid.gov/medicaid/quality-of-care/improvement-initiatives/care-transitions/index.html | https://www.assistedliving.com/helping-elderly-aging-parents-adjust-senior-living-01112013/

Conversations You Need to Have

talking with momWe know that having conversations about end-of-life care can be challenging. At the same time, it is better to have these discussions with the people we love at the kitchen table — when we are calm, rational, and in control -- rather than in the ICU when it may be too late. Conversations allow family members to understand what matters most to your loved ones. Advanced care planning ensures that the wishes of our loved ones are expressed in writing and respected, which makes it easier for all involved when the time comes.

A few facts

According to The Conversation Project National Survey (2018), while 92% of people believe that talking about end-of-life planning is important, only 32% have actually done so. This means that nearly 70% of us are leaving our end-of-life decisions in someone else’s hands… a medical professional in the event of an emergency, or family members that may disagree.

The good news is that taking the initiative to begin these conversations can be easier and better than you imagined. A full 95% of the survey respondents said they would be willing to talk about their end-of-life wishes, and over 50% said they’d be relieved if a loved one initiated the conversation. It is especially important for families dealing with dementia to make these decisions early if possible.

Which legal documents do we need?

To make your healthcare decisions officially known, or those of your loved one, you will need two basic documents. The first is durable power of attorney for healthcare. This involves appointing someone to be your healthcare decision-maker (healthcare power of attorney). There is no requirement that this is the oldest child, or even a family member. It should be someone you trust to carry out your wishes. By completing this form, you are granting this person the authority to make healthcare decisions on your behalf should you become unable to do so.

The second document you need is a living will, which is also known as an advanced directive. In this document you state your wishes regarding end-of-life medical care. These forms differ by state and should be available either in hard copy or online through your state’s health department, your healthcare provider, or a lawyer.

Maple Manor Christian Home (MMCH)

Compassionate, Affectionate, Respectful and Enthusiastic. MMCH is a retirement home and nursing home in Sellersburg, IN whose mission is to provide outstanding care and a home-like environment for our residents. We provide meal preparation, laundry and housekeeping services, activities, medication administration, skilled therapy and assistance with daily living. We hold church services on Sunday and Wednesday nights. Call us at (812) 246-4866 with any questions or to arrange a tour. Visit our website for more information.

Sources: https://www.forbes.com/sites/ashleaebeling/2018/02/28/the-healthcare-conversation-you-need-to-have-now/#2eaddb603a35 | https://www.nhdd.org/public-resources#where-can-i-get-an-advance-directive | Image by silviarita on Pixabay

How to Communicate with a Loved One Living with Dementia

communication and careWatching a loved one struggle with dementia is extremely challenging and heartbreaking at times. It can pose many challenges along the way including mood swings, changes in personality, and the decline of memory, and decision-making skills. Dementia is a general term for a decline in mental ability, sometimes severe enough to interfere with daily life. While dementia is troublesome, there are multiple ways to help your loved one by finding a unique way to communicate with them. When it comes to dealing with someone who has dementia it’s all about setting the tone, making them feel comfortable, and trying to remain positive. Here are some tips to communicate efficiently with someone who has dementia.

Include them

Nobody likes to be excluded in a conversation and just because your loved one is struggling with communication and memory issues doesn't mean you shouldn’t include them in conversations. Whether it’s a casual conversation between a group of friends, family, or even medical staff, try to make a point in including them. Even if the person struggling with dementia does not understand what you are saying, chances are they can still read body language and cues. Including everyone in the conversation decreases isolation, feeling undervalued, and poor mood.

Find the right spot

Too many distractions, such as loud background noises, large groups, and even poor lighting can overwhelm someone who is dealing with dementia and make conversations more difficult. Try to find a quiet place with minimal distractions, turn off background noises if possible, and allow yourself plenty of time to communicate and be patient with the individual. Here are some additional tips from the Alzheimer’s Society:

  • ✓ Speak clearly and calmly
  • ✓ Speak at a slower pace and allow time for your loved one to process what you are saying without interruption
  • ✓ Use short, simple sentences
  • ✓ Try to use a conversational tone rather than asking a lot of questions
  • ✓ Limit choices if you are asking questions
  • ✓ Rephrase rather than repeat. If your loved-one does not understand what you are saying, consider pointing to an object or even using gestures to get your point across.

Listen

Effective communication in any relationship is all about give-and-take, so listening is a key component. Even though the person who is going through dementia might not clearly make sense, it’s crucial to let them express their feelings and be there for them.

  • ♥ Listen and offer encouragement when needed.
  • ♥ Try not to dismiss the individual’s worry or concerns.
  • ♥ Allow the person ample time to respond as it might take longer for them to process what you are saying.
  • ♥ Resist the temptation to speak on their behalf, put words in their mouth, or interrupt.
  • ♥ If the person is having difficulty finding the right words, ask them to explain their point in a different way. Sometimes it’s only one word they are trying to get past.
  • ♥ Similar to using images in books to tell the story, try to let the person’s body language assist you in what they are trying to say.

Body language

As an individual continues to decline and communication falters with dementia, body language will only become a more effective tool to rely on. Learning the cues when it comes to not only their body language but how they read yours will be key.

  • ★ Make sure your body language and expressions convey what you want to say.
  • ★ A gentle reassurance in the form of hand-holding, or a pat on the back when appropriate can be of great comfort to someone who is confused.
  • ★ Try not to stand over a person (if they are in bed) to communicate with them. Instead, get down to their level and make eye contact.
  • ★ Sudden tense movements, negative facial expressions or negative body language may cause the person to become upset or distressed and can make communication even more difficult.

At Maple Manor Christian Home we know dealing with dementia can be a difficult road. Our mission is to provide outstanding care for residents. We describe our brand of care like this: Compassionate, Affectionate, Respectful and Enthusiastic. We strive to provide a homelike environment and to develop relationships with our residents and family members. Family and friends are always welcome and encouraged to visit frequently. Visit us online, email or call us today (812) 246-4866.

Sources: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/about-dementia/symptoms-and-diagnosis/symptoms/tips-for-communicating-dementia