Reasonably Positive

Third in the Affirmation Series

A Third Affirmation: I am not a terrible person.


Most of us who are conscientious will at times condemn ourselves. We will scold ourselves mercilessly in our silent yet noisy thoughts.

Perhaps we realize we have hurt the feelings of someone we love; maybe our “thought life” has been terrible, and we know God hears all our thoughts. Each of us would have a unique confession but none should feel alone in the tendency to have a bad temper or attitude.

Turning over a new leaf can start with an answer back to the self-condemnation! Encourage your loved one to repeat after you: I am NOT a terrible person. I love God, I love my family and friends, and when I feel like I don’t really love them at all, I know that it is only a temporary failing. I will do better. I am old and I can still change many things in my life. I am not old in my heart.

Then, tell your loved one that he or she is a wonderful person.

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Affirming Love

Second in the Affirmation Series

This blog series offers Affirmations for you and your loved one who is nearing the end of life. Your goal is for your loved one to say the affirmation with you. You may help them to feel better about life, because they will verbally express a positive thought that is true and comforting.

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There are two commandments in the Christian faith that are very special. The first is: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ (Mat 22.37). The second is: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ (Mat 22:39)

Ask your loved one to repeat after you, “I love God.” Then say, Let’s repeat the first affirmation, “I love my family and friends.”

If your loved one has a hard time saying these things, it can open a way to talk about their feelings. Perhaps they will say, “I do love God but I feel like he has forgotten me.” There are other comforting Bible verses to share, like,

‘Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.’ - Jesus (John 14:27)

Or try saying, “The Bible talks about God’s people feeling they are forgotten. To them and to you, God says through Isaiah, his prophet, “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” (Isa 49:15)

Or, try sharing your favorite Bible verse, and explain why you like it. Ask if they have one, or if they would like to repeat yours.

Just putting those good thoughts in their hearing may help them feel better.

Affirmations that state facts

First in the Affirmation Series

Here begins a new series on our Blog.

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Toward the end of life, people may become discouraged. Life is more difficult because of physical aches and pains and health dilemmas. One looks ahead and is uncertain how future days will unfold. “Will I be able to endure?” Troubling thoughts stir and may lead to fear and sadness.

The older person recalls youth and high hopes, and having the energy to meet goals through hard work. How different it is to look back and see completions of life’s work or see that we could not meet each goal. The family is grown, the church no longer needs our services, retirement began some time ago. “What should we do?”

For your family in a nursing facility, these feelings may be common. Everyone is different, but for most of us, getting older is an unfamiliar landscape. It feels strange to take steps toward the end of life. People may tell the elderly to think positive, but such advice cannot be understood in the same way as it was in younger days.

In this blog series we will suggest some affirmations that we hope will ring true when you encourage your loved one in the nursing home.

To begin, if your loved one is struggling with discouragement, tell him or her to repeat these words, after you say them: “I love my family and friends.”

This is a true statement and not an unrealistic one like, ‘what the mind can conceive the body will achieve.’

“I love my family and friends.” The person who can say this is a special and good person, and someone whom anyone would like to know. We celebrate and enjoy life when we say that we love our family and friends. A loving heart is like an open flower in the sunlight. Beautiful, fresh, worthy of appreciation and care.

Let’s say it again, “I love my family and friends.”

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